Question: What most helps our personality?

Answer: Anything that makes it bow to our soul.

Question: Why?

Answer: Because in bowing to our soul, we are our best self.

Are you “perfect?” ... The answer is yes, but few of us know it.

An amazing quality from our soul that shines through our personality is perfection. For the soul, perfection is wholeness, not flawlessness. Wholeness means the complete person which includes the fact that we are “under construction.”

Personality is made up of the traits and patterns of our surface self—the part of us that adapts, presents, and interacts with the world. But beneath this outer layer lives something far more essential: the soul. And the qualities of the soul form what we might call our soulality—our truest identity.

When we finally discover our true vocation, it is not our personality that brings us there. When a mother labors to bring new life into the world, her strength does not arise from personality. When we grieve the loss of someone we love, the depth of that sorrow does not come from personality. And when life presses us into crisis and we reach for the one person we can trust, it is not personality that guides our hand. In these moments, something much more profound takes over. We are drawn from the surface of who we appear to be, into the truth of who we are. We are most whole, most steady, and most real when we are living from the soul.

We recognize personalities everywhere—on screens, in print, through voices carried across podcasts and radio. We feel as though we know these figures: their expressions, their opinions, their tone. And yet, a quiet question lingers beneath our fascination: Who are they, really? Not the image, not the persona, but the living, breathing being behind it all.

Many of us find ourselves captivated by the Enneagram—its uncanny ability to describe, with startling accuracy, the patterns of human personality. Across cultures and countries, its influence continues to spread. Why? Because it speaks to something we continuously seek to understand ourselves and also to know what makes others tick.

Think back to high school. Each year the classes chose a girl and a boy to be their “favorites” in categories like : Best Looking, Smartest, Most Athletic, Most Likely to Succeed, Most School Spirited, Wittiest—and of course, the Best Personality. In the teen years having a good personality is a coveted compliment. And it serves us well all during life.