Heartstrings Part 4
November 20, 2025
Heartstrings Part 4
The personality types in the Heart Center are the Two, Three, and Four. These types share a profound disconnection from their own lovability.
Twos struggle to prove, repeatedly, that they are worthy of love. They give and serve endlessly, yet rarely feel confident they are loved, or loved enough. Thus, they become trapped in continuous service to others.
Threes seek to be loved by being successful. Unless they achieve, win, or make things happen, they feel unworthy of affection. Their trap is constant striving for efficiency and accomplishment.
Fours search for love through uniqueness. They try to secure love by being special and one-of-a-kind, yet never quite find their genuine self. They are caught in the quest for authenticity.
All three heart types share a deep sense of rejection that gives rise to shame:
· Two: shame in being unworthy of others’ love.
· Three: shame in feeling inadequate and deficient.
· Fours: shame in feeling like an abandoned orphan, unsure of who they are.
Twos, Threes, and Fours are especially familiar with the emotional world. They tend to interpret life, relationships, and situations primarily through the heart’s emotions. This does not mean they neglect the mind or body, but their natural “go-to” is the heart.
All personality types travel through the heart center and experience emotion. Yet, each of us has some wall that moderates our emotional flow. We can tear it down, let everything in, build it up, feel nothing, or turn it into a dam regulating emotion. One of our earliest developmental tasks is learning the art of self-regulation.
The baby cries, but not every time does the caretaker come as soon as the baby demands. This is good because the caregiver's temporary absence helps the baby learn the art of self-soothing, an essential skill that deals with delayed gratification.
Emotions can seem like emergencies, be it a baby, child, teen, or adult. We feel deep and desperate, lack something we need, or are overcome with fear and apprehension. It is best to have tried-and-true ways to deal with our unsatisfied needs.
This is when the daily spiritual practice comes in.
Being in touch with the Divine at the beginning of each day provides tremendous emotional regulation. It serves as a lightning rod that grounds us in the assurance that we are loved.
Spiritual practice: Compare your emotional states during a day without a spiritual practice to a day when you kept the spiritual practice. What was the result?
Self-inquiry: Why would you ever need self-regulation or self-soothing?
Prayer:
Dear God, Please make me an instrument of your peace for being that instrument brings harmony to my heartstrings. Amen
